The Eyes Of A Spectator

Before I get into this, this is a special post. Me and my friend Phil were walking down a road after he saw some people, and they ran up to him and yelled his name, but they barely even know him. He was basically used as a meat puppet, like alot of people are. I'd just like to talk about that a little. I also want to say that I'm going to start integrating a digg button into all of my posts from here on in.

What Makes A Friend?

1. Mutual Understanding - There should always be a mutual understand that you two are friends, and will continue to be. Usually in these type of things there isn't really a "so are we friends" type of question, it just happens. If you two are really meant to be friends, you might end up being best friends in the first couple of hours.

2. Giving Yourself Up - By this I mean, if you two were to get into trouble, both of you would be willing to give yourself up and take the heat away. This isn't a really big factor, but it can occur at all ages. This is more of an honorable and noble kind of thing to do.

3. Talking - When I say talking, I don't mean talking when your with each other. I mean when you two aren't with each other. A good friendship means that not only one person is giving each other calls, but you call and talk to each other.

4. Talking about things - Sharing secrets is something everyone does, but sharing your own personal life with someone with detail, makes a friend. This is especially true for shy people who don't really talk much about their own lives. For some people they only tell the best of friends their own personal life.

5. Reliability - To me this is probably one, if not the most important factor of a friend. An example of this is something like, if you call a friend and ask him or her for a favor, they will do it. That is a true friend. A true friend wouldn't give you excuses on why they can't do it, and if they really cannot do it, then they would say it straight out, or say they don't want to.

6. Favors - Favors are done all the time, but with a friendship, favors can be done without feeling you need something in return.

7. Honesty - This is big. Honesty is something everyone should have, friendship or not. If you have an honest friend, you should keep them, honest people are alot harder to find than you think.

8. Laughter - Too much seriousness? Drama is something the mind craves, but some people just don't care for it. Laughter is one of the greatest things that someone can do to another. Tears of laughter are always preferred over tears of sadness.

9. Support - You can go to them for support when you need it. Be some tears, or a hug, or to get rid of some anxiety, they are there for you when you need it. It's not hard to find this in most people, because when you see someone who is sad, your first response is to usually try to help them out. Friends can be made like that.

10. Best Friends - Best Friends are one of the hardest things to find in the world. Best friend's are basically your soul-mates and are one in a million. You may think you have a best friend, but chances are they aren't. I'm not saying this to put anyone down, but it really is alot harder than you think. Best friends are composed of everything on this list and more.

That's basically all I can think of when it comes to having a true friend. If there are more ways, feel free to comment on it.